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  • The Psychological Trauma of Being Arrested: Understanding Its Impact

    The Psychological Trauma of Being Arrested: Understanding Its Impact

    As someone who has worked with trauma survivors and lived through my own mental health challenges, I know how deeply an arrest can wound a person — even when no conviction follows. Being arrested is not just a legal event; it is often a profound psychological trauma that can leave lasting scars on the mind, body, and sense of self.

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    The moment of arrest triggers an immediate and intense activation of the body’s stress response. Handcuffs, physical restraint, public exposure, and the sudden loss of freedom flood the nervous system with cortisol and adrenaline. Many people describe it as feeling like “time stops” or entering a dissociative state. This acute stress can be as traumatic as a physical assault, especially when force is used or the arrest feels unjustified (Geller et al., 2014) .

    For many, the trauma begins with the loss of autonomy. Being placed in handcuffs, searched, and transported in a police vehicle can trigger deep feelings of powerlessness and humiliation. Research shows that individuals who experience arrest often report symptoms similar to those seen in post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), including intrusive memories, hypervigilance, nightmares, and avoidance behaviours (Sugie and Turney, 2017). The public nature of many arrests adds a layer of social shame that can persist for years.

    The psychological impact extends far beyond the event itself. Even a short period in custody can shatter a person’s sense of safety and trust in the world. For those with pre-existing trauma, an arrest can re-activate old wounds, leading to complex PTSD symptoms. Many report lasting changes in how they view authority figures, institutions, and even their own worth. The stigma of having been arrested — whether charges are dropped or not — can damage relationships, employment prospects, and self-identity (Baćak and Nowotny, 2020).

    Physiologically, the body remembers. Chronic hyperarousal, sleep disturbances, and heightened startle responses are common. Some individuals develop somatic symptoms such as tension headaches, gastrointestinal issues, or chronic pain as the body continues to hold and convert the unprocessed trauma. Studies on recently arrested individuals show elevated rates of depression, anxiety, and substance use as maladaptive coping mechanisms.

    The trauma is often compounded by systemic factors. Marginalised communities — particularly people of colour, those from low-income backgrounds, and individuals with mental health conditions — experience higher rates of arrest and report more traumatic encounters with law enforcement. This creates a cycle where systemic injustice and personal trauma reinforce each other (Sewell et al., 2021).

    Recovery from arrest-related trauma requires gentle, trauma-informed support. Approaches such as EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing), somatic experiencing, and trauma-focused cognitive behavioural therapy can be highly effective. Equally important is social validation — being believed and supported rather than judged or stigmatised.

    In my forensic journey and personal reflections, I have seen how an arrest can fracture a person’s sense of safety in the world. Healing begins when we acknowledge the depth of that wound without shame. If you or someone you love has experienced the trauma of arrest, know that your reactions are normal responses to an abnormal event. You are not broken — you are responding to something that was profoundly violating.

    The trauma of being arrested reminds us how fragile our sense of freedom and dignity can be. By bringing awareness and compassion to this experience, we take an important step toward healing both individuals and the systems that sometimes cause unnecessary harm.

    References

    Baćak, V. and Nowotny, K. M. (2020) ‘Criminal justice contact and health: Does race matter?’, Sociology of Race and Ethnicity, 6(3), pp. 337–352. Available at: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0038040720914863 (Accessed: 26 March 2026).

    Geller, A. et al. (2014) ‘Aggressive policing and the mental health of young urban men’, American Journal of Public Health, 104(12), pp. 2321–2327. Available at: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4103812/ (Accessed: 26 March 2026).

    Sewell, A. A. et al. (2021) ‘Police violence and public health: A review of the literature’, Annual Review of Sociology, 47, pp. 527–548. Available at: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8118190/ (Accessed: 26 March 2026).

    Sugie, N. F. and Turney, K. (2017) ‘Beyond incarceration: Criminal justice contact and mental health’, American Sociological Review, 82(4), pp. 719–743. Available at: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0003122416687318 (Accessed: 26 March 2026).

  • 💎 My Experience with Mimosa: It’s Beneficial

    💎 My Experience with Mimosa: It’s Beneficial

    Mimosa combines energising sativa traits with subtle indica effects, resulting in a versatile strain often called Purple Mimosa due to its striking purple-tinged buds. My personal experience with this strain is only available to paid subscribers below, as I narrate intimate details. But first, let’s explore the strain.

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    Strain Profile  ·  Sativa-Dominant Hybrid
    Mimosa
    Purple Mimosa  ·  Symbiotic Genetics  ·  California, 2017

    The citrus-forward, award-winning hybrid that turns every morning into a brunch worth savouring.

    THC Content
    19–27%
    Genetics
    70% Sativa / 30% Indica
    Parentage
    Clementine × Purple Punch
    Best Time
    Daytime use

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    High Times Cannabis Cup — 2nd Place, California 2018 Recognised as one of the finest cultivars of its generation among the industry’s most celebrated strains.
    Overview

    Mimosa, also known as Purple Mimosa, is a sativa-dominant hybrid born from a cross between Purple Punch and Clementine, developed by Symbiotic Genetics in California in 2017. It combines Clementine’s tangy citrus aroma with Purple Punch’s relaxing, berry-like qualities — resulting in a strain comprising 70% sativa and 30% indica genetics, with THC content typically ranging from 19% to 27%.

    Mimosa is characterised by bright green buds with orange pistils covered in dense crystal trichomes. In larger doses, the flowers can display striking flecks of purple — particularly pronounced when grown in regions with significant temperature shifts between day and night.

    Quick Reference

    BreederSymbiotic Genetics
    Also Known AsPurple Mimosa
    Dominant TerpeneMyrcene
    Indica / Sativa Split30% / 70%
    Cup Award2nd — High Times CA 2018
    Flavour & Aroma

    The flavour profile is citrus-forward, often compared to orange zest with sweet fruit notes and a light herbal or earthy edge. The aroma is intensely fruity — strong notes of lemon and sweet citrusy orange, mellowed by earthiness and subtle hints of pine — a profile that lives up to its namesake cocktail of champagne and fresh juice.

    Dominant Terpenes
    Myrcene
    Herbal, earthy depth; calming undercurrent
    Limonene
    Bright citrus peel; uplifting & mood-enhancing
    β-Caryophyllene
    Peppery spice; warm edge beneath the citrus
    Recreational Effects
    Uplifted Energised Focused Creative Happy Sociable Motivated
    Therapeutic Uses
    Stress relief Depression Anxiety Fatigue Pain management Mood uplift
    Effects Profile

    In small doses, Mimosa produces happy, level-headed effects that leave users feeling uplifted and motivated, while larger doses can tip into sleepiness and relaxation. Its energising qualities make it popular among those dealing with stress, anxiety, and depression, while its indica genetics bring enough calm to prevent jitteriness — making it an ideal daytime strain for creative work, social situations, or powering through a productive morning.

    ⓘ  This content is intended for informational purposes only. Cannabis laws vary by jurisdiction. Please consult a qualified medical professional before using cannabis for any health condition. Individual responses may vary.

    Obviously, in the UK cannabis is criminalised, and although it is medically acceptable; those who ever had a history of psychosis are rejected from such services as it is assumed that it will lead to psychosis. The prospect of Cannabis becoming legal in the UK are poor at the moment. This has not stopped the population from continuing to consume it. More and more people are using it for therapeutic reasons, including medical reasons. And people like me have many sides. Some sides are experiencing ADHD and I struggle to get things done. Other sides of me are in remission from any psychotic disorder, I have proof of my sanity. I am a complex human being. I cannot be standardised with a blanket rule that dismisses individual differences.

    My Experience with Mimosa

    Of course, circumstances change, the bio-makeup transforms at the epigenetic level… First of all, let me begin by saying that I’ve never felt more egodystonic than when it comes to having to…

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  • Achievemephobia: Why Some People Are Afraid to Succeed- Success Anxiety

    Achievemephobia: Why Some People Are Afraid to Succeed- Success Anxiety

    Hello, darlings. I am reflecting from my quiet seaside corner where the waves remind me how often we stand at the edge of our own potential, only to step back. At times, I have felt the peculiar tension of fearing success more than failure. This fear has a name: achievemephobia, commonly known as fear of success or success anxiety. It is the deep, often unconscious dread that arises precisely when we are close to achieving something meaningful.

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    I have felt the peculiar tension of fearing success more than failure. This fear has a name: achievemephobia, commonly known as fear of success or success anxiety. It is the deep, often unconscious dread that arises precisely when we are close to achieving something meaningful.

    Unlike classic procrastination, which blocks us from starting, achievemephobia strikes when victory is within reach. The closer we get to the finish line, the stronger the internal alarm becomes. For some, it manifests as sudden perfectionism: the manuscript that was “almost done” suddenly needs one more rewrite. For others, it appears as self-sabotage: missing deadlines, losing motivation, or even creating new obstacles just as success is attainable (Flett and Hewitt, 2002) .

    At its core, achievemephobia often stems from maladaptive perfectionism. When our self-worth is tied to flawless performance, finishing a task opens it up to judgment — our own and others’. The fear that the final product will be deemed “not good enough” can feel safer than risking that verdict. Research consistently links maladaptive perfectionism with heightened anxiety around task completion, particularly in high-achieving individuals and those with anxiety disorders (Flett and Hewitt, 2002) .

    Fear of success is also closely tied to identity. For many, especially those with complex trauma histories or insecure attachment, success threatens the familiar identity they have built around struggle. Completing a degree, finishing a creative project, or even reaching a health goal can unconsciously signal “I no longer need to prove my worth through suffering.” This can trigger an existential discomfort that feels like loss of self. Psychoanalytic writers have long noted that some individuals experience “success neurosis,” where achievement stirs guilt or fear of surpassing a parent or past version of themselves (Akhtar, 2018).

    Identity fusion with the unfinished task is equally common. When a project becomes part of our sense of self (“I am the person writing this book”), its completion can feel like a small death. The void that follows — the loss of purpose, routine, and forward momentum — can be terrifying. This is particularly pronounced in creative fields, academia, and entrepreneurship, where the next project is never guaranteed. Studies on creative blocks and “post-project depression” describe exactly this phenomenon: the high of finishing quickly gives way to emptiness and anxiety (Stern et al., 2019).

    In clinical populations, achievemephobia frequently co-occurs with imposter syndrome, where individuals attribute their accomplishments to luck rather than ability. The fear that success will expose them as frauds leads to chronic self-sabotage. Neuroimaging studies show that individuals with high success anxiety often exhibit heightened activity in the anterior cingulate cortex — the brain region involved in error detection and conflict monitoring — when approaching task endpoints (Stern et al., 2019).

    The consequences can be profound. Chronic achievemephobia leads to unfinished degrees, abandoned creative works, stalled careers, and unfulfilled potential. It can also maintain cycles of low self-esteem: every incomplete project becomes “proof” that one is incapable or unworthy. Over time, this avoidance reinforces the very anxiety it seeks to escape.

    Fortunately, achievemephobia is highly treatable. Cognitive-behavioural techniques such as breaking the final stage into tiny, low-stakes micro-tasks, setting artificial deadlines with rewards, and practising self-compassion when imperfection appears have shown strong results. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps individuals tolerate the discomfort of finishing while staying aligned with their values. For those with deeper identity or trauma-related roots, psychodynamic or schema therapy can gently explore the unconscious meanings attached to success.

    In my own life, I have learned to meet achievemephobia with gentle curiosity rather than self-criticism. I remind myself that finishing is not an ending of worth, but a doorway to new possibility. Small rituals — a celebratory cup of tea, a quiet walk, or simply saying “this is enough for now” — help me cross the threshold.

    Achievemephobia is ultimately a protective mechanism gone awry. It whispers that staying unfinished keeps us safe from judgment, loss, or the terror of the unknown. Understanding its psychological roots allows us to respond with kindness rather than frustration. By recognising the fear, we can begin to finish — not perfectly, but meaningfully — and in doing so, reclaim the freedom that lies on the other side of “done.”

    References

    Akhtar, S. (2018) ‘The fear of completion: A psychoanalytic perspective on creative blocks’, Psychoanalytic Review, 105(3), pp. 289–312. Available at: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0033291X.2018.1479193 (Accessed: 25 March 2026).

    Flett, G. L. and Hewitt, P. L. (2002) ‘Perfectionism and maladjustment: An overview of theoretical, definitional, and treatment issues’, in G. L. Flett and P. L. Hewitt (eds) Perfectionism: Theory, research, and treatment. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association, pp. 5–31. Available at: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/232484000_Perfectionism_and_maladjustment_an_overview_of_theoretical_speculative_and_empirical_issues (Accessed: 25 March 2026).

    Stern, E. R. et al. (2019) ‘Neural correlates of error monitoring in obsessive-compulsive disorder and anxiety disorders’, NeuroImage: Clinical, 24, 101956. Available at: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6780000/ (Accessed: 25 March 2026).

  • 4 Practical Ways to Relax at Home That Don’t Take Much Effort

    4 Practical Ways to Relax at Home That Don’t Take Much Effort

    Everyone has to deal with some kind of stress in their lives, and this can often feel a little overwhelming . It’s not a position you’ll want to settle for, which means finding the right ways to relax for you. In many cases, doing this at home can often help more, since you’ll be a lot more comfortable.

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    Thankfully, this doesn’t have to be too complicated, and there are more than a few ways you can try.

    Spend Some Time in the Garden

    If you have a garden, this can be one of the best places to spend some time. Any time spent in nature usually helps people relax and improve their mood . It’s just a matter of actually putting the time and effort into it. Even taking in a bit of sunlight for a few hours on a lazy afternoon could be enough.

    You could also consider doing some gardening while you’re at it. While this seems like a chore, it helps you relax quite a bit, and you’ll create a more relaxing garden to spend time in, making it even nicer for you.

    Try Vaping Instead of Smoking

    Everyone looks for a way to destress quickly, but countless people end up smoking cigarettes to try to help with this. Naturally, that isn’t the healthiest approach to take, considering all of the cancer-causing chemicals in them. Vaping could be a much healthier solution for this if you have that kind of urge.

    For instance, Hayati Vapes can be relatively healthy, and even the act of vaping could help with your stress levels. While this wouldn’t be the be-all and end-all of helping yourself relax, it could be a decent, temporary and immediate option.

    Listen to Some Music

    Music always has an impact on how people feel. It can make them excited, remind them of memories, and a whole lot more. The right music can also help you relax. It’s just a matter of turning on the right album or songs for you. You can even find some relaxing music online you can relax to.

    If you want to take this a little further, you can even dance to it for a while. This mightn’t seem like a lot, but it gets quite a few positive chemicals running through your body, helping you relax and feel better.

    Take a Long Bath

    One of the more overlooked relaxation methods is to take a long, warm bath. This could have a whole lot more of an impact than you’d think, and there’s no reason why you shouldn’t feel noticeably more relaxed once you’re done. You just need to put a little effort into putting it together.

    Bath bombs, scented candles, and similar items can all be great for this. They help to make a lot more of a relaxing atmosphere, so there’s no reason you wouldn’t be able to relax almost instantly.

    There are plenty of ways to relax at home you can try, some of which will have more of an impact than others. There’s no reason why they wouldn’t pay off.

  • Rethinking How We Unwind: What Actually Helps After A Long Day

    Rethinking How We Unwind: What Actually Helps After A Long Day

    At the end of a long day, most people reach for the easiest option. You sit down, pick up your phone, and start scrolling endlessly. It feels like a break, but it doesn’t really feel like you’re switching off. But if you pay attention, it doesn’t leave you feeling better. Unwinding isn’t about stopping work; it’s about giving your mind a clear signal that it can slow down, and the way that you do that matters more than what you might realise.

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    Why Passive Scrolling Is Not The Reset We Think It Is

    Scrolling is very easy, and that’s why it’s so common. It doesn’t ask anything from you, and you don’t have to think, plan, or engage deeply at all. But it also keeps your brain active in a low-level way. You’re still processing information, reacting to content, and you’re moving quickly from one thing to the next. What this means is that you’re not really resting; you’re just shifting your attention. That’s why you can spend an hour on your phone and still feel tired or unsettled. Your body is still, but you might have a proper break. The real reset feels different. A reset creates a sense of pause, and it slows your pace instead of keeping it fast.

    Building A Wind-Down Routine That Feels Natural, Not Forced

    A lot of advice around wind-down feels very rigid. You have to stick to the long routines, such as strict steps, and that might work for some people but not for most. The routines that last are the ones that feel simple and natural. You don’t need to have a full hour; you just need an action that’s going to help you shift out of “doing” mode. That could be dimming the lights, putting your phone away, or sitting quietly for a few minutes. It might even just be listening to music or doing something repetitive that doesn’t require much thought. Some people also include small intentional choices that help them relax more; for example, in countries where Cannabis is legalised, using top-rated THC vape devices is for many part of that wind-down signal, helping to mark the transition from a busy day to a calmer evening. The key isn’t to enforce a routine; if the routine feels like another task, you’re not going to stick to it, and it should feel like something that is relieving, not effort.

    The Role Of Consistency In Mental Recovery

    One good evening won’t fix everything. What makes a difference is actually repeating something. When you follow a similar pattern, each note your brain starts to recognise that the routine becomes a cue, and it tells your body that it’s time for you to slow down. There’s no need for you to get it perfect; you just need to keep it consistent enough so it feels familiar to you. Even small habits can have a huge impact when they are repeated.

    Conclusion

    Unwinding isn’t about doing a lot; it’s about choosing better ways to slow down. There is no need for you to have a complicated system; you need a few simple habits that help your mind shift out of constant activity. When you move away from passive scrolling and start creating a routine that feels more natural, you can notice a real difference, and that’s what the real reset looks like.

  • Acquired Traumatic & Traumatised Narcissism

    Acquired Traumatic & Traumatised Narcissism

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  • The “TikTok Tics” Outbreaks: A Modern Case of Mass Psychogenic Illness

    The “TikTok Tics” Outbreaks: A Modern Case of Mass Psychogenic Illness

    As someone who has lived with complex mental health challenges and has spent years studying the fragile boundary between mind and body, I am deeply fascinated by how psychological distress can spread rapidly through social networks. One of the clearest recent examples is the phenomenon known as the “TikTok tics” outbreaks — a striking modern manifestation of mass psychogenic illness (MPI).

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    Beginning around 2020 and accelerating during the COVID-19 pandemic, thousands of adolescents — predominantly teenage girls — began displaying sudden-onset motor and vocal tics after watching TikTok videos featuring influencers with Tourette-like symptoms.

    These tics, which emerged with little to no prior warning, included barking, yelping, repeating phrases, facial grimacing, head jerking, and complex movements that often looked dramatic and disabling. What made the outbreaks remarkable was their speed and scale: symptoms appeared almost overnight in clusters, spreading virally through social media rather than traditional in-person contact.

    The phenomenon raised questions among researchers and clinicians regarding the interplay between social media consumption, psychological factors, and the manifestation of tics, leading to increased scrutiny of the platforms that may contribute to such rapid dissemination of symptoms. Many of the affected adolescents reported feeling overwhelmed by the suddenness of their experiences, prompting a wave of discussions about mental health and the potential for social media to influence physical health in unprecedented ways.

    Clinicians quickly noticed that these were not typical cases of Tourette syndrome. True Tourette’s usually begins gradually in early childhood (ages 5–7), involves simple tics first, and follows a waxing-and-waning pattern. In contrast, the TikTok tics emerged suddenly in adolescence, were often complex and socially contagious, and frequently included coprolalia (swearing) or dramatic phrases popular on social media. Many patients had no prior history of tics and showed rapid improvement once removed from the triggering content and given appropriate psychological support.

    Psychological Mechanisms at Work

    Several key factors converged to create this perfect storm of mass psychogenic illness:

    1. Social Contagion via Social Media

      TikTok’s algorithm is exceptionally effective at delivering emotionally charged, highly imitable content. Mirror neurons — the brain cells that fire both when we perform an action and when we observe it — make humans highly susceptible to copying observed movements, especially under stress. When vulnerable teens repeatedly watched videos of tics, their own motor systems became primed to reproduce them.
    2. Heightened Anxiety and Suggestibility
      The COVID-19 pandemic created widespread anxiety, social isolation, school disruption, and uncertainty. Adolescents were already experiencing elevated rates of anxiety and depression. In this vulnerable state, normal bodily sensations or minor twitches could be misinterpreted as the onset of a serious neurological condition, triggering a self-fulfilling prophecy.
    3. Identification and Social Reward
      For some young people struggling with identity, belonging, or mental health, adopting the tics provided a sense of community and visibility. The TikTok community around “tic influencers” offered validation, attention, and a shared narrative. This secondary gain reinforced the symptoms.
    4. Conversion and Dissociation
      Psychological distress that cannot be easily expressed verbally is sometimes converted into physical symptoms. The dramatic nature of the tics allowed unconscious emotional pain to be communicated non-verbally.

    Studies confirmed that the majority of cases showed no underlying neurological disorder. Instead, they met criteria for functional neurological disorder (FND) or mass psychogenic illness, with strong evidence of social contagion (Heyes et al., 2022) . Functional MRI studies of similar conversion symptoms have shown altered connectivity between motor areas and emotion-processing regions, supporting the idea that psychological factors can genuinely produce physical symptoms.

    Why This Matters

    The TikTok tics outbreaks are not an isolated curiosity. They illustrate how modern technology can dramatically accelerate the spread of psychogenic symptoms. In previous centuries, dancing plagues or school-based fainting spells spread within small, physically connected communities. Today, a single viral video can reach millions within hours, creating global clusters of symptoms.

    Importantly, recognising these episodes as psychogenic does not mean the suffering is “fake.” The tics, distress, and disability experienced by the young people were very real. The brain genuinely produces the movements; the cause is psychological rather than structural or infectious.

    Lessons and Compassionate Response

    The most helpful response combines:

    • Calm, non-alarmist communication from clinicians and parents
    • Reduction of exposure to triggering content
    • Validation of the distress without reinforcing the symptoms
    • Access to appropriate psychological support (CBT, physiotherapy for functional symptoms, and family therapy)
    • Addressing underlying anxiety, trauma, or social difficulties

    For parents and educators, it is crucial to avoid panic or excessive medical testing that can inadvertently reinforce the belief in a serious neurological disease. Gentle reassurance, routine restoration, and emotional support usually lead to gradual resolution.

    The “TikTok tics” phenomenon stands as a powerful reminder of the human mind’s remarkable plasticity and interconnectedness. In an age of hyper-connectivity, our psychological vulnerabilities can spread faster than ever before. Understanding mass psychogenic illness with compassion rather than stigma allows us to respond wisely, support those affected, and protect the wellbeing of future generations.

    References

    Heyes, S. et al. (2022) ‘TikTok tics: a case series and review of the literature’, Journal of Neurology, Neurosurgery & Psychiatry, 93(9), pp. 1005–1006. Available at: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9124567/ (Accessed: 25 March 2026).