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  • 100 Uses for Bicarbonate of Sodium (i.e. Baking Soda)

    100 Uses for Bicarbonate of Sodium (i.e. Baking Soda)

    Hey lovelies! It’s Betshy, your Plymouth-based dreamer, sharing affordable, eco-friendly hacks with bicarbonate soda. As someone navigating mental health challenges and a tight budget, I know every penny counts. These tips keep my home sparkling and my creative juices flowing. Let’s dive into 100 ways to use this magic powder, perfect for us dreamers building a better life, one small step at a time.

    Bicarbonate of Sodium is a versatile compound commonly known as baking soda, which not only serves as a leavening agent in baking but also has numerous applications in cooking, cleaning, and even personal care. This white, crystalline powder is praised for its ability to neutralise acids, making it an effective ingredient in recipes such as fluffy cakes and cookies. Additionally, it acts as a natural deodoriser, helping to eliminate odours in both the kitchen and the refrigerator.

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    1. Kitchen Surface Sparkler

    Mix 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda with 1 cup water for a paste, scrub counters, and rinse. For stubborn grease, add vinegar (1:1) to fizz away grime. It’s gentle, affordable, and keeps spaces shining without harsh chemicals, ideal for sensitive souls chasing big dreams on a budget.

    2. Fridge Odour Buster

    Place an open box or ½ cup bicarbonate soda in a bowl inside the fridge, swapping monthly. It neutralises fishy or veggie smells, keeping kitchens fresh. No mixing, just pure budget-friendly magic for an inspiring space.

    3. Laundry Glow-Up

    Add ½ cup bicarbonate soda to laundry with detergent for brighter whites. For stains, apply a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water) before washing. It’s cheap, eco-friendly, and saves cash for big goals.

    4. Carpet Freshener

    Sprinkle bicarbonate soda on carpets, wait 15 minutes, then vacuum. It eliminates pet or spill odours. No mixing needed, keeping it simple for busy dreamers creating inspiring spaces.

    5. Oven Shine Maker

    Clean ovens with a paste (½ cup bicarbonate soda, 2 tbsp water). Spread, let sit overnight, and wipe. For grease, spray vinegar (1:1 with water) to fizz. It’s non-toxic and saves money.

    6. Stain Vanisher for Clothes

    Tackle clothing stains with a paste (4 tbsp bicarbonate soda, ¼ cup water). Rub on stains, let sit an hour, then wash. It works on sweat or food, keeping wardrobes fresh on a budget.

    7. Dishwasher Freshener

    Deodorise dishwashers with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda sprinkled at the bottom before a cycle. It kills food odours, keeping dishes fresh. No mixing, super easy for busy lives.

    8. Cutting Board Sanitiser

    Sanitise cutting boards with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda, scrub with a sponge, and rinse. For garlic smells, add vinegar (1:1). It’s safe, budget-friendly, and keeps kitchens hygienic.

    9. Grout Brightener

    Brighten grout with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Scrub, then spray vinegar (1:1 with water) to fizz away dirt. Rinse clean. This cheap, eco-safe hack creates vibrant spaces.

    10. Trash Bin Deodoriser

    Sprinkle ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in trash bins before adding a new liner. It absorbs food odours, keeping homes fresh. No mixing, just simple magic for busy dreamers.

    11. Sink Polisher

    Polish sinks with a paste (2 tbsp bicarbonate soda, 1 cup water). Scrub, rinse, and shine. For stains, spray vinegar (1:1). It’s gentle and affordable, perfect for sparkling kitchens.

    12. Shoe Odour Zapper

    Sprinkle 1 tbsp bicarbonate soda in shoes, let sit overnight, then shake out. It eliminates sweat odours, keeping footwear fresh. No mixing, super easy for busy lives.

    13. Microwave Miracle

    Clean microwaves with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water, wipe, and rinse. For splatters, heat 1 cup water with 2 tbsp soda for 3 minutes, then wipe. A safe hack for vibrant kitchens.

    14. Coffee Pot Reviver

    Clean coffee pots with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in 1 quart warm water. Scrub and rinse. It removes stains without chemicals, keeping coffee tasting great on a budget.

    15. Toilet Bowl Sparkler

    Clean toilets with ½ cup bicarbonate soda and ½ cup vinegar. Let fizz, scrub, and flush. It’s natural, cheap, and keeps bathrooms fresh for creative spaces.

    16. Silverware Shiner

    Polish silver with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Rub, rinse, and shine. For tarnish, soak in 1 cup water with 1 tbsp soda and foil. A budget-friendly glow-up.

    17. Pet Bedding Freshener

    Deodorise pet bedding with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda. Sprinkle, wait 15 minutes, then vacuum. It’s pet-safe and keeps homes fresh. No mixing, easy for busy souls.

    18. Grease Stain Slayer

    Remove grease stains with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Scrub, then wash. It’s affordable, eco-friendly, and keeps wardrobes fresh for entrepreneurial vibes.

    19. DIY Air Freshener

    Make an air freshener with ½ cup bicarbonate soda and 10 drops of essential oil in a jar with a perforated lid. It absorbs odours and smells divine, keeping creative spaces inspiring.

    20. Dish Scrubbing Magic

    Scrub dishes with 1 tbsp bicarbonate soda on a soapy sponge. For stuck-on food, soak in 1 gallon water with ¼ cup soda. It’s gentle, cheap, and perfect for sensitive souls.

    21. Upholstery Reviver

    Clean upholstery with a light sprinkle of bicarbonate soda, wait 15 minutes, then vacuum. For stains, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A budget-friendly hack for fresh furniture.

    22. Burnt Pan Rescuer

    Clean burnt pans with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda, hot water, and an overnight soak. Scrub with a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). For tough spots, boil with 1 cup water and 2 tbsp soda.

    23. Tile Floor Gleamer

    Clean tile floors with ½ cup bicarbonate soda in 1 gallon warm water. Mop and rinse. For stains, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). An eco-friendly hack for sparkling homes.

    24. Jewellery Sparkler

    Polish jewellery with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Rub gently, rinse, and shine. For intricate pieces, soak in 1 cup water with 1 tbsp soda and foil. A budget-friendly glow.

    25. Mattress Odour Buster

    Deodorise mattresses with ½ cup bicarbonate soda. Sprinkle, wait 1 hour, then vacuum. It’s simple, cheap, and keeps bedrooms fresh for inspiring projects.

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    26. Drain Unclogger

    Unclog drains with ½ cup bicarbonate soda, then ½ cup vinegar. Let fizz for 15 minutes, flush with hot water. A natural, budget-friendly hack for flowing homes.

    27. BBQ Grill Shiner

    Clean BBQ grills with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Scrub and rinse. For grease, spray vinegar (1:1). A non-toxic hack for outdoor creative spaces.

    28. Lunch Box Freshener

    Deodorise lunch boxes with 1 tbsp bicarbonate soda overnight, then wipe and rinse. It’s simple, cheap, and keeps essentials fresh for entrepreneurial hustles.

    29. Wall Mark Eraser

    Remove wall marks with a paste (2 tbsp bicarbonate soda, 1 cup water). Wipe with a sponge and rinse. It’s gentle on paint, keeping spaces pristine for creative projects.

    30. Coffee Maker Reviver

    Descale coffee makers with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in 1 quart water. Run a cycle, then rinse. It’s cheap, eco-friendly, and keeps coffee tasting great.

    31. Sports Gear Deodoriser

    Deodorise sports gear with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in bags or equipment overnight, then shake out. It’s simple, budget-friendly, and keeps gear fresh for active lives.

    32. Fridge Spill Cleaner

    Clean fridge spills with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Wipe and rinse. For sticky messes, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A gentle hack for vibrant kitchens.

    33. Bathtub Gleamer

    Scrub bathtubs with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). For stains, spray vinegar (1:1). Rinse well. An eco-friendly hack for sparkling bathrooms.

    34. Car Upholstery Freshener

    Clean car upholstery with a light sprinkle of bicarbonate soda, wait 15 minutes, then vacuum. For stains, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A budget-friendly hack for travel-ready cars.

    35. Vacuum Odour Zapper

    Freshen vacuums with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in the bag or canister. It absorbs dust and pet odours, keeping homes fresh. No mixing, super easy for busy souls.

    36. Chrome Polisher

    Polish chrome with a paste (2 tbsp bicarbonate soda, 1 cup water). Wipe and rinse. For shine, spray vinegar (1:1). A budget-friendly hack for sparkling fixtures.

    37. Pet Stain Vanisher

    Remove pet stains with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Let sit 1 hour, then vacuum or wipe. For odors, sprinkle and vacuum. A gentle hack for fresh homes.

    38. Window Sparkler

    Clean windows with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 gallon water. Wipe and rinse. For streaks, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). An affordable hack for clear inspiration.

    39. Rust Stain Remover

    Remove rust with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Scrub metal or fabric, rinse. For tough spots, add vinegar (1:1). A budget-friendly hack for clean spaces.

    40. Fireplace Soot Cleaner

    Clean fireplace soot with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda on a damp sponge. Scrub and rinse. For tough spots, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A non-toxic hack for cosy homes.

    41. Fruit and Veggie Wash

    Wash produce with 1 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 quart water. Soak 10 minutes, rinse. It’s gentle, cheap, and removes pesticides, supporting health-conscious dreams.

    42. Garbage Disposal Freshener

    Freshen disposals with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda, then ½ cup vinegar. Let fizz 10 minutes, flush with hot water. A natural hack for odour-free kitchens.

    43. Laundry Softener

    Soften laundry with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in the rinse cycle. It’s chemical-free, perfect for sensitive skin. No mixing, super easy for dreamers.

    44. Showerhead Descaler

    Descale showerheads with ½ cup bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Soak a cloth, wrap for 1 hour, rinse. For buildup, add ½ cup vinegar. A cheap hack for functional bathrooms.

    45. Toy Sanitiser

    Clean toys with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 quart water. Wipe and rinse. For dirt, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A safe hack for kid-friendly homes.

    46. Wallpaper Cleaner

    Clean wallpaper with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Wipe gently with a sponge. It’s gentle on paper, keeping homes pristine for creative projects.

    47. Concrete Stain Remover

    Remove concrete stains with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Scrub and rinse. For oil, add vinegar (1:1). An eco-friendly hack for inspiring outdoor spaces.

    48. Leather Cleaner

    Clean leather with 1 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Wipe and dry. For odours, sprinkle, wait 1 hour, wipe. A gentle hack for fresh furniture.

    49. Car Battery Cleaner

    Clean battery terminals with 1 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Scrub corrosion away. A budget-friendly hack for keeping cars running smoothly.

    50. Paintbrush Reviver

    Clean paintbrushes with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in 1 quart warm water. Soak 1 hour, rinse. It’s cheap, eco-friendly, and keeps tools ready for creative projects.

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    51. Outdoor Furniture Cleaner

    Clean outdoor furniture with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in 1 gallon water. Scrub and rinse. For mildew, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A hack for inviting spaces.

    52. Blender Cleaner

    Clean blenders with 1 cup water and 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda. Blend 30 seconds, rinse. It’s simple, cheap, and keeps kitchens ready for creative work.

    53. Lunch Bag Freshener

    Deodorise lunch bags with 1 tbsp bicarbonate soda overnight, then wipe and rinse. For stains, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A budget-friendly hack for fresh essentials.

    54. Crayon Mark Eraser

    Remove crayon marks with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Wipe and rinse. It’s gentle, keeping homes tidy for creative inspiration.

    55. Tile Grout Whitener

    Whiten grout with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part hydrogen peroxide). Scrub and rinse. A cheap hack for brightening homes and creative vibes.

    56. Sneaker Whitener

    Whiten sneakers with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Scrub and rinse. For odours, sprinkle overnight. A budget-friendly hack for fresh footwear.

    57. Humidifier Cleaner

    Clean humidifiers with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 quart water. Wipe and rinse. It’s cheap, safe, and keeps air fresh for creative work.

    58. Kettle Descaler

    Descale kettles by boiling 1 cup water with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda. Let sit 10 minutes, rinse. A budget-friendly hack for kitchen readiness.

    59. Plastic Container Cleaner

    Clean plastic containers with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in 1 quart water. Soak 1 hour, rinse. It’s cheap, eco-friendly, and keeps kitchens fresh.

    60. Shower Curtain Cleaner

    Clean shower curtains with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in 1 gallon water. Scrub and rinse. For mildew, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A hack for fresh bathrooms.

    61. Fabric Softener Swap

    Soften laundry with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in the rinse cycle. It’s chemical-free, perfect for sensitive skin. No mixing, super easy for dreamers.

    62. Glassware Polisher

    Polish glassware with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Wipe and rinse. It’s cheap, eco-friendly, and keeps glassware sparkling for creative vibes.

    63. Pet Toy Sanitiser

    Clean pet toys with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 quart water. Soak 10 minutes, rinse. It’s safe, budget-friendly, and keeps homes fresh for creative dreams.

    64. Radiator Cleaner

    Clean radiators with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Wipe and rinse. For grime, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A hack for warm, cosy homes.

    65. Car Windshield Cleaner

    Clean windshields with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Wipe and rinse. For bugs, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A budget-friendly hack for clear travels.

    66. Oil Spill Absorber

    Clean oil spills with ½ cup bicarbonate soda. Sprinkle, wait 1 hour, then sweep. It’s cheap, eco-friendly, and keeps garages tidy for creative projects.

    67. Microwave Odour Zapper

    Deodorize microwaves with ½ cup bicarbonate soda in a bowl overnight. Wipe clean. No mixing, super easy for keeping kitchens fresh.

    68. Griddle Cleaner

    Clean griddles with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Scrub and rinse. For grease, add vinegar (1:1). A non-toxic hack for kitchen readiness.

    69. Curtain Freshener

    Deodorise curtains with a light sprinkle of bicarbonate soda. Wait 1 hour, vacuum or shake. It’s simple, cheap, and keeps homes fresh for creative vibes.

    70. Stainless Steel Shiner

    Clean stainless steel with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Wipe and rinse. For smudges, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A hack for sparkling appliances.

    71. Pet Litter Deodoriser

    Deodorise litter boxes with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda over litter. It’s pet-safe and keeps homes fresh. No mixing, perfect for busy souls.

    72. Wallpaper Adhesive Remover

    Remove wallpaper adhesive with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 gallon hot water. Apply and scrape. A gentle hack for home redecoration and creative inspiration.

    73. Freezer Freshener

    Deodorise freezers with ½ cup bicarbonate soda in a bowl, swapped monthly. It’s simple, cheap, and keeps kitchens fresh for creative projects.

    74. Coffee Stain Vanisher

    Remove coffee stains from mugs with 1 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Scrub and rinse. For tough stains, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A hack for clean kitchens.

    75. AC Filter Cleaner

    Clean AC filters with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 quart water. Soak 10 minutes, rinse. It’s cheap, eco-friendly, and keeps air fresh for creative work.

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    76. Patio Stone Cleaner

    Clean patio stones with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in 1 gallon water. Scrub and rinse. For stains, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A hack for inspiring outdoor spaces.

    77. Fabric Odour Eliminator

    Deodorise fabrics with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda. Sprinkle, wait 15 minutes, vacuum or shake. No mixing, super easy for keeping spaces fresh.

    78. Dish Rack Cleaner

    Clean dish racks with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Scrub and rinse. For rust, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A hack for kitchen readiness.

    79. Vinyl Floor Gleamer

    Clean vinyl floors with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in 1 gallon warm water. Mop and rinse. For scuffs, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). An eco-friendly hack for sparkling homes.

    80. Tool Cleaner

    Clean tools with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Wipe and rinse. For rust, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A budget-friendly hack for project-ready tools.

    81. Camping Gear Freshener

    Deodorise camping gear with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in bags or tents overnight, then shake out. It’s simple, cheap, and perfect for active, creative adventures.

    82. Blender Blade Cleaner

    Clean blender blades with 1 cup water and 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda. Blend 30 seconds, rinse. A cheap hack for keeping kitchens ready for projects.

    83. Wine Stain Remover

    Remove wine stains with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Let sit 1 hour, wash or wipe. A budget-friendly hack for fresh fabrics.

    84. Ceiling Fan Blade Cleaner

    Clean ceiling fan blades with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Wipe and dry. It’s cheap, eco-friendly, and keeps homes fresh for creative work.

    85. Toilet Tank Cleaner

    Clean toilet tanks with ½ cup bicarbonate soda. Let sit 1 hour, flush. It’s safe, cheap, and keeps bathrooms functional for creative dreams.

    86. Car Carpet Freshener

    Clean car carpets with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda. Sprinkle, wait 15 minutes, vacuum. For stains, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A hack for travel-ready cars.

    87. Oven Rack Cleaner

    Clean oven racks with ½ cup bicarbonate soda in 1 gallon hot water. Soak 4 hours, scrub, rinse. A cheap hack for kitchen readiness.

    88. Wallpaper Stain Remover

    Remove wallpaper stains with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Wipe gently. A gentle hack for keeping homes pristine for inspiration.

    89. Fridge Shelf Cleaner

    Clean fridge shelves with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Wipe and rinse. For sticky spills, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A hack for vibrant kitchens.

    90. Shoe Sole Cleaner

    Clean shoe soles with a paste (3 parts bicarbonate soda, 1 part water). Scrub and rinse. A budget-friendly hack for fresh footwear.

    91. Dishwasher Rack Cleaner

    Clean dishwasher racks with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup water. Scrub and rinse. For rust, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A hack for kitchen readiness.

    92. Patio Furniture Deodoriser

    Deodorize patio furniture with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda. Sprinkle, wait 1 hour, vacuum or wipe. No mixing, perfect for keeping spaces inviting.

    93. Coffee Grinder Cleaner

    Clean coffee grinders with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda. Grind, then wipe. It’s cheap, eco-friendly, and keeps kitchens ready for projects.

    94. Tile Adhesive Remover

    Remove tile adhesive with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 cup hot water. Apply and scrape. A gentle hack for home redecoration and inspiration.

    95. Car Seat Cleaner

    Clean car seats with a light sprinkle of bicarbonate soda. Wait 15 minutes, vacuum. For stains, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A hack for fresh travels.

    96. Pet Cage Cleaner

    Clean pet cages with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda in 1 quart water. Wipe and rinse. For odours, sprinkle and wipe. A safe hack for fresh homes.

    97. Vinyl Siding Cleaner

    Clean vinyl siding with ¼ cup bicarbonate soda in 1 gallon water. Scrub and rinse. For stains, use a paste (3 parts soda, 1 part water). A hack for inspiring homes.

    98. Blender Jar Deodoriser

    Deodorise blender jars with 1 cup water and 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda. Soak 1 hour, rinse. A cheap hack for fresh kitchens.

    99. Laundry Basket Freshener

    Deodorise laundry baskets with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda overnight, then wipe or vacuum. It’s simple, cheap, and keeps homes fresh for creative vibes.

    100. Cutting Board Deodoriser

    Deodorise cutting boards with 2 tbsp bicarbonate soda. Sprinkle, wait 15 minutes, rinse. For strong odours, add vinegar (1:1). A hack for kitchen readiness.

  • I Am Attracted To and I Have Empathy Towards Dangerous Souls at Penance

    I Am Attracted To and I Have Empathy Towards Dangerous Souls at Penance

    I decided to go into forensics because since I was a child, I had a natural gift of dealing with troubled individuals so as to keep myself safe. I grew up in Colombia during the 90s, a time when the Constitution of 1991 was established, and a time when violence, narco-cartels, the paramilitary, satanic sects, death squads, and fresh magnicides took place. Indeed, utter political chaos was the status quo. Yes, Colombia was in deep crisis during this decade, and psychological deviations were all over the place. What seemed normal everywhere, was also a hyper-manifestation, and hypernormalisation of what now is classified as abnormal.

    Among the many ills of Colombia, were sexual deviations. And that’s how my ‘career’ into forensic psychoanalysis began when I was only six years old.

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  • I Tracked Mobile Core Web Vitals for a Month and Passed the Test. I Healed my Website’s UX

    I Tracked Mobile Core Web Vitals for a Month and Passed the Test. I Healed my Website’s UX

    A lot of people think that web optimisation is as simple as downloading a plugin that helps with some bits. Nope! Sometimes UX requires surgery, just like the human body requires it at times. Furthermore, just like humans, sometimes cosmetic surgery is required, and other times a life-saving surgery is warranted.

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    28th June, 2025

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    Core Web Vitals assessment report showing metrics for Largest Contentful Paint, Interaction to Next Paint, Cumulative Layout Shift, First Contentful Paint, and Time to First Byte.
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    Dashboard displaying Core Web Vitals assessment with metrics such as Largest Contentful Paint, Interaction to Next Paint, and Cumulative Layout Shift, indicating a failed assessment.
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    Core Web Vitals assessment results showing metrics such as Largest Contentful Paint, Interaction to Next Paint, and Cumulative Layout Shift, with overall assessment marked as 'Failed'.
    Performance metrics analysis with scores displayed for performance, accessibility, best practices, and SEO.

    23rd July, 2025

    A screenshot displaying Core Web Vitals assessment results, highlighting metrics such as Largest Contentful Paint (LCP), Interaction to Next Paint (INP), Cumulative Layout Shift (CLS), First Contentful Paint (FCP), and Time to First Byte (TTFB). The assessment shows a 'Failed' status.
    Screenshot displaying website performance metrics, including scores for Performance, Accessibility, Best Practices, and SEO.

    24th July, 2025

    A screenshot displaying Core Web Vitals assessment results, including metrics such as Largest Contentful Paint (LCP), Interaction to Next Paint (INP), Cumulative Layout Shift (CLS), First Contentful Paint (FCP), and Time to First Byte (TTFB). The assessment has a status of 'Failed' with relevant numerical values for each metric.
    A detailed performance evaluation report showcasing metrics for performance, accessibility, best practices, and SEO on a website.

    At this point, nearly a month had gone by and the web core vitals continued to show improvement, but yet, continued to fail the test. I did not let this stop me, I persevered. And it was well worth it because the next day, finally…it PASSED!

    25th July, 2025

    Core Web Vitals assessment showing metrics for Largest Contentful Paint, Interaction to Next Paint, Cumulative Layout Shift, First Contentful Paint, and Time to First Byte.
    Screenshot of a performance overview dashboard displaying metrics for performance, accessibility, best practices, and SEO scores, with a low performance score of 39.

    26th July, 2025

    Graph displaying Core Web Vitals assessment metrics including Largest Contentful Paint (LCP), Interaction to Next Paint (INP), Cumulative Layout Shift (CLS), First Contentful Paint (FCP), and Time to First Byte (TTFB), all showing performance results with assessment passing.
    A performance and accessibility report showing scores for various metrics, with a performance score of 62, accessibility score of 90, best practices score of 79, and SEO score of 83, alongside a preview of a website.

    27th July, 2025

    Screenshot of Core Web Vitals assessment showing a passed status with metrics for Largest Contentful Paint, Interaction to Next Paint, Cumulative Layout Shift, First Contentful Paint, and Time to First Byte.
    Screenshot showing website performance scores: Performance 52, Accessibility 90, Best Practices 79, SEO 83.

    28th July, 2025

    Dashboard displaying Core Web Vitals assessment metrics including Largest Contentful Paint, Interaction to Next Paint, Cumulative Layout Shift, First Contentful Paint, and Time to First Byte.
    A digital dashboard displaying performance, accessibility, best practices, and SEO scores, with metrics indicated by colored circles.

    As it can be seen, it took nearly a month of constant optimisation to get my website out of hospital. At this point, my main concern is the immediate performance scores, which were showing low even if the core web vitals text was passed. This predicts that it might get worse, before it gets better, and now I will have to pay close attention to daily performance checks to ensure that the site stays stable.

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  • The Fear Holding Me Back from Sharing My Truth

    The Fear Holding Me Back from Sharing My Truth

    As I write this update on Tuesday, May 6, 2025, I’m struggling to find the courage to publish this blog post, overwhelmed by fear and self-doubt that have resurfaced after a series of messages from my perpetrator over the weekend. One message, in particular, has thrown me off balance: he mentioned his relative contacting me, thanked me for wishing him well, and pleaded for one last try at couple’s therapy, offering to pay for counselling and claiming it’s confidential, so I’d have “nothing to lose.” He denied that his actions—like ghosting me for two days due to a hangover—constituted abuse, accusing me of mislabelling them and implying I’ve made him seem like a physical abuser by not providing “details.” He ended by saying he’d never contact me again if I didn’t reply, but his words have left me spiralling, feeling like the abuse is my fault all over again.

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    This message, along with others he sent over the weekend, has reignited the fear that’s kept me from sharing my story. I’m terrified that if I publish this post, he’ll see it and retaliate, especially since the Non-Molestation Order I applied for through the National Centre for Domestic Violence (NCDV) is still being fast-tracked and isn’t yet in effect. The NCDV has been working diligently since I contacted them on May 1, 2025, but the process has taken longer than expected, leaving me vulnerable to his ongoing harassment. His past threats—like saying “Big mistake” on April 13 when I set boundaries—make me worry he’ll escalate, perhaps by showing up or intensifying his smear campaign, as he did with the local community. I’m scared he’ll twist my words, claiming I’ve misrepresented him, and that others will believe his gaslighting over my truth. As someone with health problems, I’ve already battled self-doubt, and his accusations exploit that vulnerability, making me fear I’ll be seen as “deluded” or “overdramatic,” labels he’s used to undermine me.

    The emotional toll has been immense—my panic attacks have worsened, and my mental health team increased my Diazepam prescription this week because my emotions have become so intense, teetering on the edge of stupor and catatonia. I’m also afraid of his manipulative pull; his suggestion of therapy tugs at the part of me that once hoped he could change, despite his emotional abuse in our past sessions with Stephanie. But I’m determined to publish today, knowing that the support of PDAS, JWA, and the First Response team, along with the Clare’s Law disclosure that validated my experience, gives me the strength to speak out and help others break free.

    The traumas will take time to heal. I’m working on rebuilding my self-esteem, reminding myself that my schizophrenia and depression don’t make me “disgusting”—they’re part of my journey, and I’m stronger for surviving them. I’m reclaiming my love for theology, finding solace in the texts that once brought me joy, refusing to let his threats taint that part of me. I’m also channelling my experiences into something positive: I’m reviving my plan to turn my website into a platform for emotional support for women, sharing resources, coping strategies, and a safe space for others to heal, just as I am.

    If you’re reading this and recognise these signs in your own relationship—the withdrawal, the gaslighting, the threats—please know you’re not alone. Reach out to support services like Women’s Aid or your local First Response Team. You deserve to feel safe, to be loved without fear, to break free from the possession of abuse. I’m still healing, but I’m free now, and that freedom is worth every tear I’ve shed. I hope my story gives you the courage to find yours.

  • Exploring the Young and Brilliant Mind of Antonella

    Exploring the Young and Brilliant Mind of Antonella

    Hello, my dear readers! Today I am delighted to present to you an interview with Latina-European, Colombia-Italian Antonella Orlando, a 14 years old girl with a voice and a purpose. I asked her a series of questions on topics related to the social sciences . These were her responses:

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    How does a father help in the emotional development of his daughter?

    A father plays an essential role in his daughter’s emotional development. From the earliest years of life, his loving and constant presence gives her security, love, and confidence. When a father validates his daughter’s emotions, listens without judgement, and supports her at every stage, she learns to recognise and express her feelings freely and without fear.

    Furthermore, a father who guides with love and firmness helps his daughter build healthy self-esteem, feel valuable, and set appropriate boundaries. His way of relating to her becomes the primary model of how human relationships should be: with respect, tenderness, honesty, and understanding.

    He also teaches her to manage frustration, face problems calmly, and believe in herself even in difficult times. His emotional support accompanies her through important decisions, moments of confusion, and every small step toward independence.

    What are the consequences of a father who is absent in difficult moments of his daughter’s life?

    When a father is absent during his daughter’s difficult times, she may experience feelings of abandonment, loneliness, and she might feel misunderstood. This emotional absence can cause deep wounds that affect her self-esteem, security, and confidence. The lack of paternal support during difficult times can also lead to difficulties managing emotions, making decisions, or trusting others.

    Some daughters may develop emotional dependency or, reversely, become distrustful and excessively independent. In certain cases, the absence of a paternal figure can also be reflected in future emotional relationships, where the pattern of abandonment or lack of affection is recreated. The pain of not feeling supported by such an important figure can leave scars that influence a woman’s personal, emotional, and social life.

    How should a father support his daughter?

    A father should support his daughter consistently, respectfully, and lovingly. This means being present in her life, not only physically but also emotionally: listening without judgement, validating her feelings, and supporting her through both her successes and her setbacks.

    The father must show genuine interest in his daughter’s thoughts and experiences, create a trusting environment where she can speak without fear, and be a figure with whom she feels safe.

    He should also educate her with love, guide her with patience, correct her without hurting her, and always remember that his example has a profound impact.

    A supportive and respectful father teaches his daughter to love and value herself, and face life with resilience. His role is not only to protect, but also to encourage and help her discover who she is and how valuable she is.

    Why do some young girls feel that they cannot disclose everything to their parents?

    Many young women feel they can’t tell everything to their parents because they fear being judged, scolded, or misunderstood. Sometimes adults minimise what their daughters feel, calling it an exaggeration or drama, and this creates an emotional barrier. Other times, parents react with anger or without really listening, which causes their daughters to bottle up their problems for fear of the reaction.

    It may also be that there isn’t a safe space for open communication at home, or that a relationship of trust (rapport) hasn’t been built. When parents don’t listen attentively, don’t validate emotions, or/and don’t respect silence; daughters learn to keep quiet. That’s why it’s so important for adults to listen without interrupting, ask questions with empathy, and approach them from a place of love, not control.

    What are the signs displayed nowadays by teens who are experiencing depression?

    Today’s young people show several signs of depression, although they may not always be easy to notice. Some isolate themselves from friends or family, stop enjoying things they used to enjoy, or experience sudden mood swings. They may also sleep too much or too little, overeat or skip eating, and show disinterest in their studies or responsibilities.

    Other signs include constant irritability, unexplained tiredness, or expressions of feeling worthless or empty. In more severe cases, they may talk about not wanting to continue living, engage in self-harm, or have recurring negative thoughts.

    It is essential that these signs be taken seriously and that they are offered support, understanding, and professional help when necessary.

    What will the 2035 general society think like? What will be understood then, that we don’t already know today?

    By 2035, society could have a more empathetic and open view of issues that still generate resistance or fear today, such as mental health, identity diversity, climate change, or the impact of technology on human emotions. It’s likely that by then we’ll better understand how to take care of our minds, how to create healthy relationships from a young age, and how to prevent emotional isolation.

    Perhaps there will be more emotional education in schools, and well-being will be valued more than quick success. We might also have greater knowledge about how social media affects our self-esteem and how artificial intelligence influences our way of thinking. What is ignored or seen as taboo today could be treated naturally and respectfully in 2035, thanks to social advances and the active voices of today’s young people.

    Do you believe that today’s youth will be able to combat climate change in the future?

    Yes, today’s young people have a fundamental role to play in the fight against climate change. They are a more aware, informed, and committed generation. Through education, activism, technology, and political participation, they can generate creative solutions and demand change from governments and businesses.

    Many young people are already leading environmental movements, promoting recycling, responsible consumption, and the use of clean energy. They also have access to networks and tools that allow them to mobilise and educate others.

    Although climate change is a global problem that requires everyone’s collaboration, young people have the power to change mindsets and act now to protect the future of the planet.

    What and how could today’s youth teach their parents?

    Today’s young people can teach their parents many things, especially on topics such as respect for diversity, mental health, the use of technology, and the importance of expressing emotions. At times, parents grew up in a time when these issues weren’t openly discussed , and young people, with their way of seeing the world, can help them open up and learn.

    The youth can do this with patience, respect, and for example: by showing their thoughts through actions, sharing information, engaging in non-confrontational dialogue, and listening.

    Teaching isn’t about imposing, but about sharing from the heart. When parents see their children teaching them with love, they are more willing to learn and change. This dual learning relationship strengthens the family and allows them to grow together.

    What topics do you believe are the most difficult for adults to comprehend nowadays?

    Many adults fail to understand the emotional world of young people. They sometimes believe that anxiety, depression, or insecurity are simple whims or lack of character, when in reality they are serious issues that need attention.

    They also struggle to understand the importance of social media in today’s life, or the new forms of expression and identity that are now part of the new youth language. Sometimes, they judge without listening or impose without dialogue.

    Another area where they often fail is: respecting young people’s boundaries and privacy.

    To improve this understanding, it is key for adults to open themselves to dialogue, listen with empathy, and stay up-to-date on the realities facing the new generations.

    What does it mean to respect the youth, in your opinion?

    Respecting young people means recognising their value, listening to their ideas without underestimating them, and allowing them to have a voice on issues that affect them. It means to stop treating them as if they “know nothing” and starting to see them as people in development, with rights, emotions, and important thoughts.

    It also means not mocking their tastes, not minimising their problems, or comparing them with past generations. Respecting young people means trusting their capacity to act, teaching them without imposing, and accompanying them in their growth with love and patience. When adults respect young people, they feel valued and empowered to build a better world.

    What role does today’s youth play in the development of human rights?

    Young people play a key role in the development and defence of human rights. They are often the ones who speak out against injustice; defending equality, inclusion, and freedom of expression. Through their actions, protests, digital campaigns, and participation in social movements, they contribute to raising awareness of issues that are sometimes ignored by adults.

    Furthermore, by being globally connected, they can learn from other cultures and struggles, strengthening their social awareness. Young people inspire change and are drivers of new ideas that break with past prejudices. They are agents of transformation who, with their energy, creativity, and sensitivity, build a more just society for all.

    Editor’s Conclusion

    The above interview teaches us all that our youth has a lot to express. They regularly experience the frustration of feeling misunderstood, dismissed, or emotionally abandoned.

    They are human beings, with a mind of their own, and with sophisticated curricula which gives them an advantage when it comes to being up to date with important topics.

    Furthermore, their brains are quicker, they are naturally adapting to new technologies, and are increasingly concerned about the realities our planet faces, such as climate change.

    Parents should be actively involved in the life of their teenagers. They should aim for negotiation rather than imposition or punishment, as new findings in psychology indicate that positive reinforcement is superior to punishment when it comes to helping a young person change their maladaptive or challenging behaviours.

    Empathy, patience, and a soft tone of voice should always be used when communicating, so no fear is triggered hormonally. Restrictions should be co-produced rather than enforced without giving the teenager a defence or a right to participate in decision-making.

    Let’s all move forward by being better fathers, mothers, grandparents, aunts, and uncles when it comes to our youth. Never underestimate them, or their feelings.

  • Finding Validation and Protection Through Clare’s Law and an Emergency Injunction

    Finding Validation and Protection Through Clare’s Law and an Emergency Injunction

    It’s Friday, May 2, 2025, and I’m writing this update with a renewed sense of clarity and strength, despite the ongoing challenges I’ve faced since I last shared my story. The past few days have been a whirlwind—marked by continued harassment, a pivotal disclosure from the police, and a rapid legal intervention that has finally given me the protection I desperately needed. I’m also reflecting on how therapy, which I’d hoped would help us heal, became another platform for his abuse, further solidifying my decision to leave. If my journey can inspire even one woman to seek the support she deserves, then sharing this update is worth every word.

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    After I ended the relationship on April 30, 2025, following his cruel behaviour in our couple’s therapy chat group, I thought I’d taken the necessary steps to protect myself—blocking him on WhatsApp, social media, and email. But the harassment didn’t stop. His threats continued, pushing me into a spiral of panic attacks so severe that I experienced stupor and catatonia, leading my doctor to prescribe Diazepam to help me cope. I felt trapped, my mental health deteriorating under the weight of his relentless intimidation. That’s when the Plymouth Domestic Abuse Service (PDAS) stepped in, referring me to apply for an emergency injunction to stop him from contacting or harming me. They connected me with the National Centre for Domestic Violence (NCDV), a free service that specializes in fast-tracking injunctions for survivors like me.

    The NCDV was a lifeline. On the evening of May 1, 2025, at 10:25 PM BST, I called their 24/7 helpline (0800 970 2070), my hands trembling as I explained the threats, the harassment, and the toll it was taking on my health. They guided me through the application for a Non-Molestation Order, a legal protection under the Family Law Act 1996 that would prohibit him from contacting or harassing me. The process was swift—despite it being after court hours, they prepared my application that night, ensuring it would be reviewed by a judge first thing the next morning, May 2, 2025. True to their reputation, the NCDV secured the order by midday today. It was served to him this afternoon, meaning it’s now in effect, and any breach—any attempt to contact or threaten me—is a criminal offense. The speed and compassion of the NCDV gave me a sense of safety I hadn’t felt in months, a concrete step toward reclaiming my peace.

    Another turning point came yesterday, May 1, 2025, when I met with the Devon & Cornwall Police for an update. They made a Clare’s Law disclosure, also known as the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme, which allows individuals to request information about a partner’s history of abuse. I can’t share the specifics of his records due to legal restrictions, but I can say this: the disclosure confirmed everything I’d been perceiving about his behaviour. It liberated me from the self-doubt that had plagued me for months. He’d called me “overdramatic,” “hostile,” even a “deluded psychotic nutcase” in our therapy chat, gaslighting me into questioning my reality, especially as someone with schizophrenia. But the Clare’s Law disclosure validated my experience—it showed me I wasn’t crazy, I wasn’t imagining things, and most painfully, I wasn’t the first victim. Knowing his abusive behavior was part of a pattern, not a personal failing on my part, gave me the clarity to fully let go of any lingering guilt or hope for change. I hope I’m the last victim, but more importantly, I urge any woman who suspects her partner is abusive to request a Clare’s Law disclosure. It could be the validation you need to break free, just as it was for me.

    Therapy, which I’d hoped would be a path to healing, ultimately failed because of his constant emotional abuse. We started couple’s therapy with a therapist named Stephanie, hoping to address his coercive behaviors—like the 5/2 cycle of ghosting, his threats, and gaslighting—but it became another arena for him to hurt me. On April 29, 2025, in our therapy chat group, he attacked my vulnerabilities, calling me “disgusting” for showering only 2-3 times a week during the winter due to my depression, a symptom of my schizophrenia, and labelling me a “deluded psychotic nutcase.” That was the moment I knew therapy couldn’t work—not because I didn’t try, but because he refused to change. His abuse in a space meant for healing confirmed what Jewish Women’s Aid (JWA) had warned me about: he was unlikely to change, and staying engaged with him, even in therapy, was unsafe. I ended the sessions that day, choosing to focus on my own healing instead.

    The Clare’s Law disclosure and the Non-Molestation Order have given me a foundation to rebuild. The traumas are still there—the fear, the shame, the violation of sacred spaces like our shared love for Jewish Studies—but I’m no longer questioning my reality. I’m working with the First Response team in Plymouth, who’ve been a lifeline during this ordeal, and JWA, who continue to offer culturally sensitive support. I’m also exploring resources like the Freedom Programme online, which helps survivors understand abusive behaviors and their impact. My journey isn’t over, but with the NCDV’s swift action, the police’s validation through Clare’s Law, and my decision to walk away from a failed therapy attempt, I’m finally on a path to healing. To anyone reading this: you deserve safety, validation, and peace—don’t wait to seek the support that can help you find it.

  • ✡️ Old Testament Bible Prophecies in Context

    ✡️ Old Testament Bible Prophecies in Context

    Throughout history, Jewish people have preserved their beliefs and traditions, passing them down from generation to generation, ensuring that each new group remains connected to their rich cultural heritage. One of the most fascinating aspects of Jewish faith is the belief in prophecies – predictions made by prophets that are said to be messages from God, often guiding the community in times of uncertainty and offering hope for the future.

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    These prophecies, which encompass a wide range of themes from the coming of the Messiah to the eventual restoration of Israel, have profoundly influenced not only Jewish life but also the beliefs and practices of other faiths. Additionally, the interpretation of these prophecies has led to a diverse array of theological discussions and scholarly debates within the Jewish community, illuminating the dynamic and evolving nature of their spiritual beliefs through the ages.

    The Old Testament is filled with prophecies that some alleged were fulfilled throughout history. These prophetic verses foretold everything from the arrival of a saviour to the destruction of cities. For the Jewish people, these prophecies held immense significance as they looked towards a future of redemption and salvation.

    🕎 Isaiah

    🕯️ Isaiah 7:14 – “Assuredly, my Sovereign will give you a sign nonetheless! Look, the young woman is with child and about to give birth to a son. Let her name him Immanuel”.

    ✍️ Commentary: Messianic Jews and Christians posit that the prophecy of the virgin birth of the Messiah was fulfilled in Jesus’ birth to Mary. However, it must be stated that some Bible translations have gone as far as including the word “virgin” in this passage. This was made as an attempt to make the story of Jesus seem perfectly fit for this prophecy. Still, Jesus’ name was actually Yeshua (ישוע), not immanuel. Nevertheless, the Talmud of Jmmanuel shows a more similar record.

    🕯️ Isaiah 9:6 – “For a child has been born to us. A son has been given us. And authority has settled on his shoulders. He has been named The Mighty God is planning grace; The Eternal Father, a peaceable ruler”.

    ✍️ Commentary: Once again, this verse is often used to justify the birth of Yeshua as the Messiah. But when we look at his name, the meaning is different. Also, different translations of the Bible have adapted this passage to confirm their theories of the holiness of Jesus’ story.

    🕯️Isaiah 11:10 – “In that day, the stock of Jesse that has remained standing shall become a standard to peoples—Nations shall seek his counsel and his abode shall be honoured”.

    ✍️ Commentary: Once again, Christians and Messianic Jews have posited that this prophecy refers to Jesus (Yeshua); however, it might actually refer to King David, the son of Jesse. Of course, many will point to the idea that Joseph (Jesus’ father) came from the lineage of King David. It is imperative to assert that Joseph was his putative, not biological father; therefore, Jesus was not a true descendant of King David.

    🕯️Isaiah 40:3 – “A voice rings out: ‘Clear in the desert a road for GOD! Level in the wilderness a highway for our God! Let every valley be raised, every hill and mount made low. Let the rugged ground become level and the ridges become a plain. The Presence of GOD shall appear, and all flesh, as one, shall behold— For GOD has spoken’”.

    ✍️ Commentary: Of course, Christians and Messianic Jews claim that this verse referred specifically to John the Baptist preparing the way for Yeshua. This belief is compounded by the Gospel of Matthew (3:3) where a direct link is made to Isaiah’s statement. Yet, when we add some context, the chapter does not seem to focus on a specific human being. It seems like the message is addressed to all nations, and specifically speaks of God, not anyone else.

    🕯️Isaiah 53: 3-10 – “He was despised, shunned by others, a man of suffering, familiar with disease. As one who hid his face from us, he was despised, we held him of no account. Yet it was our sickness that he was bearing, our suffering that he endured. We accounted him plagued, smitten and afflicted by God; but he was wounded because of our sins, crushed because of our iniquities. He bore the chastisement that made us whole, and by his bruises we were healed. We all went astray like sheep, each of us going our own way; and GOD visited upon him the guilt of all of us. He was maltreated, yet he was submissive, he did not open his mouth; like a sheep being led to slaughter, like a ewe, dumb before those who shear her, he did not open his mouth. By oppressive judgement he was taken away, who could describe his abode? For he was cut off from the land of the living, through the sin of my people, who deserved the punishment. And his grave was set among the wicked, and with the rich, in his death— Though he had done no injustice and had spoken no falsehood. But GOD chose to crush him by disease, that, if he made himself an offering for guilt, he might see offspring and have long life, and that through him GOD’s purpose might prosper”.

    ✍️ Commentary: Obviously, Messianic Jews and Christians both believe that this entire prophecy related to Yeshua (Jesus) and his crucifixion. They believe that many details in these scriptures describe the specific ordeal that Jesus went through before and after his crucifixion. Yet, nowhere in Jesus’ story is there disease, so how could this be about Jesus, when he never suffered any disease?

    ❗Many of Isaiah’s prophecies are often used to hook people into believing that Yeshua was the messiah being expected, even if not all details fit around him.

    🕎 Psalms

    🕯️Psalm 16:10 – “For You will not abandon me to Sheol, or let Your faithful one see the Pit”

    ✍️ Commentary: Both Messianic Jews and Christians alike believe that this psalm prophecy was fulfilled with the event known as the resurrection of Yeshua. Some Bible translations have gone as far as changing the word “pit” into “decay” to make it even more relatable. Yet, when studied in its unadulterated form, one can perceive its unique context.

    🕯️Psalm 22:16-19 – “My vigour dries up like a shard; my tongue cleaves to my palate; you commit me to the dust of death. Dogs surround me; a pack of evil ones closes in on me, like lions [they maul] my hands and feet. I take the count of all my bones while they look on and gloat. They divide my clothes among themselves, casting lots for my garments.”

    ✍️ Commentary: Once again, Messianic Jews and Christians alike believe that this psalm specifically referred to Jesus’ crucifixion. Some translations have gone as far as adding events that did not take place or are written in its original Hebrew. Furthermore, nowhere in Yeshua’s story does it mention that dogs mauled his hands are feet. So what? Must one overlook the detail?

    🕯️Psalm 41: 10 – “My ally in whom I trusted, even he who shares my bread, has been utterly false to me”.

    ✍️ Commentary: Of course, Christians have picked this portion of scripture in order to state that the betrayal of Yeshua by Judas’ is what this psalm is talking about.

    🕯️Psalm 69:22 – “They give me gall for food, vinegar to quench my thirst”.

    ✍️ Commentary: Similarly to previous verses, those who believe that Yeshua is the Messiah, have claimed that this specific portion of scripture refers to actions by Romans the day of his crucifixion.

    🕯️Psalm 72:10- 11 – “Let kings of Tarshish and the islands pay tribute, kings of Sheba and Seba offer gifts. Let all kings bow to him, and all nations serve him”

    ✍️ Commentary: This is often perceived as a fulfilled prophecy in relation to kings bringing gifts to Yeshua when he was born.

    🕎 Genesis

    🕯️Genesis 12:3 – “I will bless those who bless you and curse the one who curses you; and all the families of the earth shall bless themselves by you.”

    ✍️ Commentary: I personally find it rather annoying that Christians and Messianic Jews have taken this verse to mean that the promise of blessing all of the descendants of Abraham was fulfilled in Yeshua, whom they claim brought salvation to all. If this was true and if Jesus already ended sin and death; then why are we still suffering as a species, and why do we still die?

    🕯️Genesis 49:10 – “The scepter shall not depart from Judah, nor the ruler’s staff from between his feet; so that tribute shall come to him and the homage of peoples be his”.

    ✍️ Commentary: Christians and Messianic Jews believe that such a prophecy of a ruler coming from the line of Judah was fulfilled in Jesus, because Joseph (his adoptive father) descended from the tribe of Judah.

    🕎 Zechariah

    🕯️Zechariah 9:9 – “Rejoice greatly, Fair Zion; raise a shout, Fair Jerusalem! Lo, your king is coming to you. He is victorious, triumphant, yet humble, riding on a donkey, on a jackass foaled by a jenny”.

    ✍️ Commentary: Messianic Jews and Christians believe this was the promise of the Messiah entering Jerusalem on a donkey, i.e. Jesus riding into the city on Palm Sunday.

    🕯️Zechariah 11:12 – “Then I said to them, “If you are satisfied, pay me my wages; if not, don’t.” So they weighed out my wages, thirty shekels of silver—”

    ✍️ Commentary: Both Christians and Messianic Jews cross-reference this verse to the new testament verse–Matthew 26:15). They posit that the betrayal of the Messiah for thirty pieces of silver was fulfilled in Judas’ payment for betraying Jesus.

    🕯️Zechariah 12:10 – “But I will pour upon the house of David, and upon the inhabitants of Yerushalayim, the spirit of grace and of supplication: and they shall look towards me, regarding those whom the nations have thrust through. And they shall mourn for him (that is slain) as one mourns for an only son, and shall be in bitterness over him, as one that is in bitterness for a firstborn.”

    ✍️ Commentary: This prophecy is often cross-referenced to John 19:37 of the new testament. Messianic Christians claim that the Messiah being pierced and mourned for was fulfilled in Jesus’ crucifixion and the mourning of His followers. Similarly,

    🕯️Zechariah 13:7 – “Awake, O sword, against my shepherd, and against the man who is associated with me, says the Lord of hosts: smite the shepherd, and the sheep shall be scattered: and I will turn my hand against the little ones.“ gets cross-referenced to Mark 14:27.

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    🕯️Zechariah 14:4 – “And his feet shall stand in that day upon the mount of Olives, which is before Yerushalayim on the east, and the mount of Olives shall be split along the middle of it by a very great valley from east to west; and half of the mountain shall be removed towards the north, and half of it, towards the south.” gets cross-referenced to Acts 1:9-12.

    🕎 Exodus

    🕯️Exodus 12:5-6 – “Your lamb shall be without blemish, a male of the first year: you shall take it from the sheep, or from the goats: and you shall keep it until the fourteenth day of the same month: and the whole assembly of the congregation of Yisra᾽el shall kill it towards evening”.

    ✍️ Commentary: Messianic Jews and Christians posit that this verse is about Jesus, who is considered the lamb of God. What I personally find insulting is that the whole event of the passover has been desacrated with a Yeshua-centred event that according to them, symbolise Jesus as “the lamb of God. This entire rhetoric is farfetched and somewhat derogatory since it radically diverts the topic of lambs of Exodus and transforms a human as an animal; it sort of upsets me because the Passover Festival is one of the several festivals which originated in Exodus. To suddenly change the concept of a lamb to mean anything but the literal concept of this type of cattle, is obscure, and I dare to say BIASED.

    🕎 Daniel

    🕯️Daniel 9:25-26 – “Know therefore and understand, that from the going forth of the commandment to restore and to build Yerushalayim until an anointed prince, shall be seven weeks: then for sixty two weeks it shall be built again, with squares and moat, but in a troubled time. And after sixty two weeks shall an anointed one be cut off, and none will be left to him: and the people of a prince that shall come shall destroy the city and the sanctuary; and his end shall be with a flood, and to the end of the war desolations are decreed.”

    ✍️ Commentary: Not surprisingly, both Messianic Jews and Christians make this verse about Yeshua, even though the reality of it is a lot more credible that such a farfetched and egocentric version of history.

    🕎 Micah

    🕯️Micah 4:1-2 – “But in the last days it shall come to pass, that the mountain of the house of the Lord shall be established on the top of the mountains, and it shall be exalted above the hills; and peoples shall stream towards it. And many nations shall come, and say, Come, and let us go up to the mountain of the Lord, and to the house of the God of Ya῾aqov; and he will teach us of his ways, and we will walk in his paths: for Tora shall go forth from Żiyyon, and the word of the Lord from Yerushalayim.”

    ✍️ Commentary: At this point, can you guess what Christians think? Indeed, they posit that this was a prophecy about Yeshua of Nazareth, and a premonition of the spread of the gospel through the Christian church, which claims that it is the “New Zion”. This distortion of historical prophecies is compounded by the following verse:

    🕯️Micah 5:2 – “Truly, [God] will leave them [helpless] until she who is to bear has borne; then the rest of his kindred shall return to the children of Israel”.

    ✍️ Commentary: Christians affirm that this prophecy of the Messiah being born in Bethlehem was fulfilled in Jesus’ birth. Much of Jewish commentary written by Rabbis throughout time mostly interpret this prophecy as the coming unity of the different tribes of Israel, and the mentioned pregnancy as a metaphor for an upcoming tribulation.

    🕎 Jeremiah

    🕯️Jeremiah 31:31-34 – “See, a time is coming—declares GOD—when I will make a new covenant with the House of Israel and the House of Judah. It will not be like the covenant I made with their ancestors, when I took them by the hand to lead them out of the land of Egypt, a covenant that they broke, though I espoused them—declares GOD. But such is the covenant I will make with the House of Israel after these days—declares GOD: I will put My Teaching into their inmost being and inscribe it upon their hearts. Then I will be their God, and they shall be My people. No longer will they need to teach one another and say to one another, “Heed GOD”; for all of them, from the least of them to the greatest, shall heed Me—declares GOD.For I will forgive their iniquities, And remember their sins no more.”

    ✍️ Commentary: Christians believe that this prophecy foresaw the “new covenant” whereby disciples of Yeshua of Nazareth posited that Mosaic law was no longer relevant and that it was Jesus’ doctrine of unconditional love that one must follow in order to be saved from hell, etc. Hebrews 8:7-13 makes a direct reference to this, appropriating such scriptures.

    🕎 Malachi

    🕯️Malachi 3:1-3 – “Behold, I am sending my messenger to clear the way before me, and the Sovereign you seek shall come to the temple suddenly. As for the angel of the covenant that you desire, he is already coming. But who can endure the day of his coming, and who can hold out when he appears? For he is like a smelter’s fire and like fuller’s lye. He shall act like a smelter and purger of silver; and he shall purify the descendants of Levi and refine them like gold and silver, so that they shall present offerings in righteousness”.

    ✍️ Commentary: Christians believe this passage predicts a messenger who will prepare the way for the Messiah, identified as John the Baptist. In contrast, the Jewish view sees the messenger as preparing for the Lord’s arrival, leading to the purification of the people and their offerings. This purification involves judgement, distinguishing the righteous from the wicked, as well as using a refiner’s fire and fullers’ soap to cleanse the Levites and the nation.

    ✡️ Conclusion

    These Old Testament prophecies and their fulfilment serve as a powerful testimony to the accuracy and trustworthiness of the word. They remind us that God’s plans and promises are sure, and that He is faithful to fulfil them in His perfect timing. This intricate weaving of prophecy and history not only strengthens our faith but also deepens our understanding of His divine purpose. Throughout the ages, countless individuals have found solace in these truths, recognizing that even amid uncertainty, God’s overarching narrative prevails. Let us take comfort and assurance in knowing that God’s work is true and reliable, and that we can trust in His sovereign care and provision for our lives, even during the most challenging times when our faith may be tested. Ultimately, these fulfilled promises reinforce our belief that God is unchanging and ever-present, guiding us toward a future filled with hope and assurance.